Parents frequently ask the question ‘Is my fault that my daughter/son is ill?’

Is it because we were both working when the children were small, maybe he felt neglected?

Is it because she’s the youngest and maybe got a bit spoiled?

Is it because he’s the oldest and felt expected to be responsible?

Is it because we felt a private education would be best, so she went to boarding school? Our other children settled in well, but she hated it.

Often carers spend much time and energy trying to work out anything they might have done to cause their children’s illness…